I’m an author, a lecturer, a porn performer, and a sex workers’ rights advocate. I serve as Vice President of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and am a member of PEN America.
My essays have appeared in dozens of print and online publications, including The Stranger, Vice, Salon, Slate, and more. I give lectures around the country about sexuality, spirituality, pornography, science, and art. I teach writing one-on-one and in groups. For seven years, I was an award-winning gay adult performer, and continue, occasionally, to perform in adult film. I’m the only person who has ever won awards for writing, teaching AND porn.
My twitter is @ConnerHabib .
Here are two of my best-known essays:
“When You’re Sick You’ll Wait for the Answer but None Will Come”
and
“What I Want To Know Is Why You Hate Porn Stars”
If you just want to talk, email me at
connerhabibsocial at gmail.com
It might take me a little while, but I answer every email and really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s interested in what I’m up to. Thanks and big love.
Here’s an alphabet of stuff I like:
anthroposophy,Alejandro Jodorowsky, Anne Carson, ass, astral body, Augustines, biology, Blur, books, Bravo Delta, Byron Katie, cartoons, Cesar Aira, chubbiness, Colby Jansen, Daniel Higgs, David Lynchdicks, Donald Barthelme, etheric body, evolution, exhibitionism, forests, Francoise Hardy, fucking, Godzilla, Goetheanum, Grant Morrison, Harold Pinter, I body, Jacques Lacan, Joe Gage, Joy Williams, Justice League, karma, kissing, London, Los Angeles, loud music, love, Lynn Margulis, metamorphosis, Michael Carragher, Michel Serres, mineral body, naps, New England, Nina Persson, nuts, occultism, Panic! at the Disco, Patricia Highsmith, Paul Carrigan, pornography, psychoanalysis, public sex, qualitative science, questioning everything, quorum sensing, Rainer Werner Fassbinder, reading, Retox, Rosemary’s Baby, Rudolf Steiner, Slavoj Zizek, Susan Sontag, symbiogenesis, Tim Fitz, Unrest, Valentin Tomberg, voyeurism, James Welch, working out, XL, XXX, y’all, Yank Crime, Zak Spears, (The) Zombies
Impressive ,good body and brains. hire you ,no!! Will be too distracted to learn anything. Well rounded porn star never thought such existed -proved me wrong.
John
Great body
Conner,
My names Rob. I’m straight, and it was a blast navigating past the vid on your webiste to get here to your comment section. I heard you on Duncan Trussell with Danielle Bolelli. It was an awesome show. I really related and am able to benefit from a lot of the discussion you guys held. I listened to it 4 times already. Thanks for being open and honest and strong.
Rob
Thanks for sharing that with me Rob – so glad it held meaning for you!
Conner,
You are a true Rennaissance man and have successfully incorporated your well-rounded myriad of talents into a life that is at once creative and productive. I am more impressed with your writing and self-marketing than with any others I’ve seen in the past 10 years. I would love to read some of your thoughts on biology, etherealism, and the works of Rudolph Steiner. Thank you, and congrats on being posted on DIGG.
PEACE,
—Savino
Now that I’ve read more of your profile, your achievements far exceed Digg. You bring more dignity and class to the gay community than most of the people who are publicly lauded for doing so.
Thanks Savino –
There are plenty of thoughts on all those things throughout my blog – I hope you’re inspired to page through. I really appreciate the interest and the kind words!
CH
Conner…I have written you before and I don’t where to start except to say “keep on truckin'” there bro. I am more on a non-fiction reader, so I like to hear everyone’s story, and if they have the rest of their lives to hear mine.,..lol..end it. Best regards, Phil
I think that is the best “Things I like List” I have ever seen.
ha, awesome. 🙂
I have just discovered your blog and web site this morning. You have created a niche onto your own by being a porn star who is also a college level writing coach. Your life and interests are very inspiring, and just what I need at this moment.
Hi There Conner, Found your site by chance. Thank you for your excellent blogs I have read so far. I find your writings so inspiring and uplifting – please keep going. Also saw your twitter updates. Shame not in London would love to have met and found out more about you and options A and B. Martin
Well aren’t you fabulous! I just love this blog. Not only do you write succinctly but also quite thoughtfully and in a way that evokes a lot of nice imagery for the reader.
It helps that you’re smoking hot and also an intellectual but I figured I’d the blog a shout out instead of simply salivating over you (which isn’t nearly as fun as a good scotch and a debate over Nietzsche!)
-John
PhD Student Trapped in Las Vegas
Yeah, you rock bro – you’ve gotta be Aquarian. Tell me it’s so. I feel like you’re ‘the crossover’ porn performer we’ve all been waiting for.
Just wanted to say I loved the article. I had one of the sweetest romances of my life with a porn star – Adam Faust.
He’s gone now and I’m married to someone else…..but I miss him. I remember he would sometimes say something like “Can we cuddle tonight, I’m tired from 8 hours of having sex under lights and I had to do Caverject etc”…..It was just cute to me. And perfectly understandable.
I hope people read and think about what you wrote…..although I know people are hard-headed when it comes to their beliefs.
Anyway, thanks so much – I enjoyed reading it.
Thank you – I loved watching Adam, and we had an email correspondence before I was in porn. He was kind-hearted and caring. I appreciate you sharing and reading.
CH
Just wanted to say that you are so cool! Saw a couple of videoclips of you on something like NextNewVideo and it’s so clear that you are very comfortable in your own skin – you are just extremely honest! In one segment, you said that you’re dick size is about 6″ – you definitely could have lied and said that it’s about 8″. Man, you are just so cool! I hope that you plan on coming to DC on June 8th for Gay Pride – I would love to meet you in person!
Just starting to read your blog but knowing in what I’ve come across so far that I am finding a man who is original, is very comfortable in his own skin and blazes his own path. If life is to strive to be ourselves, then should we not put away our lesser qualities and take it upon ourselves to learn, listen, love and live? As I read your words and consider the thoughts behind the writing, I simply want to write a thank you for putting yourself and your life out there as an example of how to put those aspects into play.
Enjoy your wit; keep expressing.
Hi Connor
My name is Ali Mushtaq and I’m a PhD Candidate in sociology. I have a question – I was approached by someone in the porn industry in order to be a “model” for their site. I was wondering – do you think I can still be a porn performer and worry about my reputation as an academic?
Thanks
Ali
Hi Ali, best to email me to ask questions like this. Thank you!
Hey Conner,
I just want to say that I am quite young. In fact I am in my early 20s. I have seen several of your videos. I have wondered if I am truly gay because I find most men in public to be rather dull and boring but in porn I find them to be very arousing. I like most of what I see in porn and was wondering if I should try it on someone my age. I am not married and I do not prefer to hit the bars for anything. I have to admit that you seem pretty hot in those steamy scenes. It really brings out the beast in me. I had no idea that an Arab man could be so attractive. By the way I am asian too, if you consider yourself asian yourself. I find you to be very hot in your videos. How much is real and how much isn’t? I don’t suppose that you could have sex for two hours straight and are the moans even real?
Thanks for this. These are questions best left to email. Send me an email and I’ll reply. Thanks!
Dear connor,
You never answered.
Remember video where you and tum kruger were together.
Tim: that is nice. Chuckles.
Conner: just leave it on.
I was excited to read that you like Francoise Hardy