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Conner + Dr. Chris Donaghue talking sex and culture

13 Oct
Welcome to Episode 10 of Against Everyone with Conner Habib
I can’t believe I’ve gotten this far without talking at length about sex yet. Well, that changed, of course, when I invited one of my closet colleagues over: sexologist, author, and co-host (with Amber Rose) of Loveline, Dr. Chris Donaghue!
Chris is one of my closest colleagues (as in, we share the same approaches to thinking about sex), and he’s constantly reinvigorating my interest in a subject that I’ve been studying and working with for over a decade.
IN THIS EP
  • When you talk about sex, you’re condemned by pop culture and bureaucracy (this goes on for quite awhile, because there’s example after example): 2:25
  • This condemnation is happening for everyone, it just rises to the surface when you enter the public sphere 9:55
  • Hypersexualization meets sexphobia to create a frustration culture: 10:30
  • Sex shame in the self help section: 13:55
  • Your own sexual liberation is a lifelong project 15:45
  • The surprising places sex negativity springs up 16:35
  • New age fundamentalism masquerading as healthy sexuality 18:20
  • Dismantling “balance” and going for excess to be healthy and fully realized: 19:45
  • “Balance” is just another name for monogamy: 21:35
  • Sex IS the teacher: 23:00
  • To learn about sex, seek some discomfort: 28:45
  • How monogamous partners often police and trap each other: 30:50
  • Wittgenstein explains pornography 33:55
  • My favorite adult scene to watch: 38:30
  • Why bisexuality does and does not exist: 40:10
  • Are new terms for sexual identity politics valuable?: 43:10
  • Conner feels fat, and that makes him a top: 47:55
  • Individuality vs Individualism: 1:01:10

The show notes, including three books Chris recommends, are here on my patreon!

If you enjoy the show, please do support it!
Thank you!

CH

Your Death Is Your Project: Conner Habib + Caitlin Doughty!

22 Sep

I couldn’t be more excited to bring you this episode with death expert, bestselling author, and mortician, Caitlin Doughty!

Caitlin is the author of Smoke Gets in Your Eyes: And Other Lessons from the Crematory as well as her new book about death rites, From Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Death.

She’s also the host of the wildly popular youtube series, Ask A Mortician which is one of the foundation stones of the death positive movement, which is seeking to change our relationship to death in our culture.

In this ep:

  • Taking death rites out of the “News of the Weird” category: 5:30
  • If we can’t think it’s okay for someone to interact with the mummy of their mother, how will we work on our politics? 11:20
  • Conner Sees His Dead Mother, or But can we really respect people’s experiences or is it just lip service? 13:25
  • Resisting creating a metaphysic around death…or forcing yours on someone else: 19:15
  • The potential of the strange psychological, spiritual event of death: 21:40
  • How death is our life’s project: 23.50.
  • What’s Your Death Fantasy? (And why?): 27:50
  • Lacan, Bataille, and how thinking about what the dead want tells us about the living: 34:55
  • Grieving is a physical process: 39:05
  • The boundary reveals itself as the connection: 40:25
  • How death makes us available to others in a new way: 42:20
  • Death is the engine that moves life forward: 48:00
  • The origins of sex: 49:00
  • And here’s where we get irritated about the singularity. And go on about it for quite a bit: 52:30

You can get full show notes with links to books we talk about, some info on previous Caitlin/Conner collaborations, and more by going to my patreon, where you can also support the show!

Love!
CH

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Conner Habib + Abby Martin! AGAINST EVERYONE WITH CONNER HABIB Episode 2!

26 Jun

 

 

Welcome to the second episode of AGAINST EVERYONE with CONNER HABIB!

I’m so excited to have Abby Martin on the show! Abby is a radical political journalist, and host of Empire Files. She’s also an artist and activist.
Together, we talk how to sift through media and find trustworthy voices, politics, imperialism, Palestinian rights, and how to live in the intensities of our world.
Here’s a breakdown of the episode:
  • How Abby & I are CLEARLY Russian agents: 1:45
  • The Jill Stein Problem: 7:10
  • The longing for a politician we can believe in, no matter what he or she says: 10:00
  • The moment the scales fell from Abby’s eyes: 11:30
  • How conspiracies form when world views are shattered: 14:00
  • The exploitation of Seth Rich’s death: 16:00
  • Why gathering the evidence for a conspiracy is not enough: 18:35
  • La La Land as the expression of US anxieties: 21:30
  • Israel as a concentration of world issues and moral compass: 25:15
  • Media misrepresentation: 38:00
  • The difference between Chris Hedges’s despicable views on porn
    versus Noam Chomsky’s dumb but responsible ones: 40:30
  • Thinking original thoughts and Wittgenstein’s struggle: 46:00
  • Stumbling your way toward better politics: 53:25

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For SHOW NOTES with links there to some of the books, movies, and people I mention in this episode. CLICK HERE for all that.

Please share and use #AEWCH when you do!

Love,

CH

AGAINST EVERYONE with CONNER HABIB EPISODE 1 – Against Everyone OR The Vision Is Always A Fact

6 Jun

Hello everyone and here we go!

The first episode of my brand new web series, Against Everyone with Conner Habib, is now up! Against Everyone with Conner Habib is a show about ideas, and how the most profound ideas emerge from thinking in multiple disciplines at once. My series brings serious, deep, and intense concepts to you in accessible, interesting, and usable ways. Each month there are at least two episodes. One (like the first episode) is a mini-lecture from me, and another is me in conversation with a great thinker/rebel/artist/weirdo of our time.

EPISODE 1: AGAINST EVERYONE or THE VISION IS ALWAYS A FACT

In Episode 1, I talk about:

  • How pleasure and political resistance meet
  • A long-forgotten thinker who can enrich our perspective of the present day
  • What having sex on the sidewalk has to do with activism
  • Your miserable friend and why they’re so miserable
  • Superman vs bombs
  • Planets having sex with one another

and so much more!

Please sign up for my Patreon to support the show.

With your contribution, you can get

  • a downloadable audio version of the show
  • bonus episodes only available to patrons
  • membership in the monthly Conner Habib Book Club
  • personalized video postcards
  • chat sessions with me

and more!

You can also find the show notes there. Please also share with your friends, family, animal companions, and preferred objects. Use the hashtag #AEWCH when you do.

Love!

CH

 

 

Conner Habib’s NEW WEB SERIES and PATREON!

23 May

Sex IslandDear everyone,

After years of writing essays, comic books, and stories; making adult scenes; doing activism for sex workers; and talking about the occult and sex around the world; I’m unveiling my very own Patreon and accompanying web series: AGAINST EVERYONE with CONNER HABIB!

My life project is to make the world a better place for being fully human, so that we don’t have to constantly hide parts of ourselves and our interests away. We should be able to be sexual and spiritual, into the sciences and the humanities, into the occult and philosophy. And we should be able to be our full, integrated selves without compartmentalizing everything.
That’s where you, my Patreon, and my new web series, Against Everyone with Conner Habib, come in. Together, we can co-create a culture that’s easier to be a rebel, a punk, a slut, a witch, and an interdisciplinary weirdo in.
Against Everyone with Conner Habib is a web series starting in June that features me giving talks on a wide range of profound, weird, and fringe topics, ranging from the history of the adult industry to the occult secrets of technology; from the mystical, political nature of time and space to the bacterial origins of sex.
It also features me in conversation with some of the leading thinkers and creators of our time. For a list of upcoming topics and guests, visit my Patreon page.
My Patreon supports all my projects, including the series. Sign up now at any level (access starts at just one dollar per month!) and you get all sorts of amazing stuff:
  • Downloadable audio of the series
  • Membership in the Conner Habib Book Club
  • Skype sessions (one-on-one) with me
  • Extra episodes
  • Personalized video postcards sent to your inbox each month
  • Exclusive peaks at projects I’m working on
and lots more!
This is a HUGE step forward for me, and your participation is literally life-changing, and our community will be culture-changing.
Watch the intro video by clicking my face up there, by clicking here, or by watching below. And if you sign up by June 1, you’ll get a personalized thank you photo from me!
So!
Let’s create a new culture. Let’s hang out. Let’s talk about things we care about. Let’s be ourselves. Let’s do everything we’ve ever cared about, all at once.Thanks for all your support and love, my friends,
Conner Habib

THIS SUNDAY: What Is The Occult + Me on Nerdist, podcasts and more!

6 Mar

Metatronner

“Occultism is the metaphysic of dunces.” – Theodor Adorno, philosopher

“Science is always discovering odd scraps of magical wisdom and making a tremendous fuss about its cleverness.” – Aleister Crowley, magus

“The occult takes everything seriously, because it recognizes that everything is possible.” – Conner Habib, me

The occult is contentious, powerful, absurd, and absolutely vital. My online course, What Is the Occult? Is THIS SUNDAY, 3/12 at noon (PST). Sign up for just 15 bucks! If you can’t attend that day/time, no problem! Your ticket gets you exclusive access to a recording of the whole thing!

You can also get tickets with cool bonus packages like a Skype conversation with me, a curated reading list, suggested rituals, access to recordings of previous courses I’ve given, and more!

Sign up now!

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I’ve done a lot of media lately, including the legendary Hound Tall podcast with legendary MKcomedian Moshe Kasher on the legendary network, Nerdist! Okay, look, I’m pushing this legendary thing, I get it. The point is, it was fun, like the movie, Legend. Basically, I talked about sex and the occult with a bunch of comedians. They interrupted me a lot, but in funny ways. Moshe’s been on Portlandia, Drunk History, and more. He also has a new show on Comedy Central, Problematic with Moshe Kasher. He’s hilarious and he’s obviously in love with me. Listen to our conversation here.

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I was on the coolest Swedish Deleuze-meets-cultural-studies podcast (yes, yes, the joke is that it’s the ONLY Swedish Deleuze-meets-cultural-studies podcast, but it’s still the coolest), The Catacombic Machine. Me and Josef Gustafsson discuss a lot of things: desire, Rudolf Steiner, Gilles Deleuze, and David Lynch’s Blue Velvet. It’s a nice big mindfuck of a podcast, so give it a listen!

 

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I’m part of this year’s Explore More SummitExplore More SummitExplore More Summit! It’s an online conference featuring tons of sex researchers and experts, set up by sex educator, Dawn Serra. She’s awesome and asks great questions. The way it works: You sign up for free and get access to a whole lot of stuff. If you pay, you get access to a ton more stuff.

Here’s the trailer for my part of the conference! Click here to sign up for free!

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Oh and here’s the trailer for my course, in case you missed it a couple weeks ago. It’s a masterpiece of me with a candles and some books because that is really witchy. Or something.

Do what I wilt,

CH

What Is the Occult? WATCH THE TRAILER: – My new online course on 3/12!

21 Feb

My new online course is coming! What Is the Occult? is an exploration of all that weird shit from 80s movies and Buffy and the creepy section at the library your parents told you to stay away from. It’s a look at why the occult is more important than ever, even if you’re a total atheist. How can the occult amplify your understanding of politics, science, art, and more?

The course is on 3/12 and only $15.00 for a standard ticket (with other ticket levels available)! If you can’t attend the day of, don’t worry! Your ticket gets you exclusive 90-day access to a recording of the whole thing! Watch the trailer and sign up!

More on the course:

It’s easy enough to talk about the occult. You know: wands, cauldrons, tarot cards, naked women in the woods and robed men in English libraries. It’s also not hard to point out the occult in history and politics; whether it’s the infamous UK magus Aleister Crowley, Ronald and Nancy Reagan’s interest in psychics and astrology, or the Salem witch trials.

But what is the occult? Is it a philosophy? A practice? A reservoir of power? Mumbo jumbo anti-science and delusion?

And why should you care, anyway?

In this live interactive course and Q&A, writer, teacher, and activist Conner Habib will conjure up a definition that outlines just how radical, exciting, and useful the occult is, especially in our dynamic and intense moment in history.

– How the occult can and does figure into your everyday life, even if you’re not a practitioner (or a believer!).

– Why the occult is so stigmatized in our culture, and how to puruse it without shame anyway.

– Differing philosophies of the occult across disciplines and practitioners.

– How the occult relates to politics, economics, and science.

– Whether or not this is all just a bunch of hocus-pocus bunk.

and much more!

Conner will guide you through the complex, fascinating, and sometimes just plain weird world of the occult in this live, online course. It’s for the beginner and the adept alike.

Register here, you sexy warlocks.