Everyone Agrees: Watch Against Everyone with Conner Habib

17 Jun

Q. What do trans porn witch Bailey Jay, Babydaddy from the Scissor Sisters, Loveline co-host Chris Donaghue, bestselling author Jon Ronson, porn drag DJ legend Chi Chi Larue, David Le’Aupepe from Gang of Youths, gay porn upstart Bravo Delta, occult economist Gordon White, rock star mortician Caitlin Doughty, funniest person alive Drew Droege, king of schlong and fashion Boomer Banks, comic-vixen-writer Sovereign Syre, radical theologian Peter Rollins, and actor/author/advice power player Sara Benincasa have in common?

A. They all love Against Everyone with Conner Habib.

Or at least the Conner Habib part.

Here’s a little ad for the series and Patreon that my friends made. Please enjoy it and copy the link to share it far and wide.

Love!
CH

AGAINST EVERYONE with CONNER HABIB EPISODE 1 – Against Everyone OR The Vision Is Always A Fact

6 Jun

Hello everyone and here we go!

The first episode of my brand new web series, Against Everyone with Conner Habib, is now up! Against Everyone with Conner Habib is a show about ideas, and how the most profound ideas emerge from thinking in multiple disciplines at once. My series brings serious, deep, and intense concepts to you in accessible, interesting, and usable ways. Each month there are at least two episodes. One (like the first episode) is a mini-lecture from me, and another is me in conversation with a great thinker/rebel/artist/weirdo of our time.

EPISODE 1: AGAINST EVERYONE or THE VISION IS ALWAYS A FACT

In Episode 1, I talk about:

  • How pleasure and political resistance meet
  • A long-forgotten thinker who can enrich our perspective of the present day
  • What having sex on the sidewalk has to do with activism
  • Your miserable friend and why they’re so miserable
  • Superman vs bombs
  • Planets having sex with one another

and so much more!

Please sign up for my Patreon to support the show.

With your contribution, you can get

  • a downloadable audio version of the show
  • bonus episodes only available to patrons
  • membership in the monthly Conner Habib Book Club
  • personalized video postcards
  • chat sessions with me

and more!

You can also find the show notes there. Please also share with your friends, family, animal companions, and preferred objects. Use the hashtag #AEWCH when you do.

Love!

CH

 

 

Conner Habib’s NEW WEB SERIES and PATREON!

23 May

Sex IslandDear everyone,

After years of writing essays, comic books, and stories; making adult scenes; doing activism for sex workers; and talking about the occult and sex around the world; I’m unveiling my very own Patreon and accompanying web series: AGAINST EVERYONE with CONNER HABIB!

My life project is to make the world a better place for being fully human, so that we don’t have to constantly hide parts of ourselves and our interests away. We should be able to be sexual and spiritual, into the sciences and the humanities, into the occult and philosophy. And we should be able to be our full, integrated selves without compartmentalizing everything.
That’s where you, my Patreon, and my new web series, Against Everyone with Conner Habib, come in. Together, we can co-create a culture that’s easier to be a rebel, a punk, a slut, a witch, and an interdisciplinary weirdo in.
Against Everyone with Conner Habib is a web series starting in June that features me giving talks on a wide range of profound, weird, and fringe topics, ranging from the history of the adult industry to the occult secrets of technology; from the mystical, political nature of time and space to the bacterial origins of sex.
It also features me in conversation with some of the leading thinkers and creators of our time. For a list of upcoming topics and guests, visit my Patreon page.
My Patreon supports all my projects, including the series. Sign up now at any level (access starts at just one dollar per month!) and you get all sorts of amazing stuff:
  • Downloadable audio of the series
  • Membership in the Conner Habib Book Club
  • Skype sessions (one-on-one) with me
  • Extra episodes
  • Personalized video postcards sent to your inbox each month
  • Exclusive peaks at projects I’m working on
and lots more!
This is a HUGE step forward for me, and your participation is literally life-changing, and our community will be culture-changing.
Watch the intro video by clicking my face up there, by clicking here, or by watching below. And if you sign up by June 1, you’ll get a personalized thank you photo from me!
So!
Let’s create a new culture. Let’s hang out. Let’s talk about things we care about. Let’s be ourselves. Let’s do everything we’ve ever cared about, all at once.Thanks for all your support and love, my friends,
Conner Habib

Conner Habib’s 10 Tips For Writers

19 Apr

cropped-chAs a writing coach and consultant, I’ve been helping writers sell their work, finish projects, improve their voices, and get better habits for nearly 15 years. Below are my 10 Tips For Writers. And no, they’re not the ones you’ve heard a million times before!

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I’ve been writing almost daily since I was 7 years old, when I typed the first pages of a fantasy novel on my mom’s new and at the time cutting edge Apple IIc computer. (The book was about how awesome dragons are. That project remains in the unfinished bin, mostly because no one needs convincing that dragons are awesome.) In the 33 years between then and now, I’ve gotten my BA in creative writing, taken writing workshops, joined writers’ groups, pursued my MFA in fiction writing at University of Massachusetts, and more.

The bad news is: Most of the advice I’ve gotten along the way (and paid for) hasn’t been very good. There are two primary problems. First, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution to writing. Writers, and their aesthetics, have different temperaments, different obstacles, different desires. But writing is rarely taught that way. As a result, as an emerging writer, I often felt like I was being asked to be the writer my teachers and peers expected me to be, rather than the writer I knew I was. The other problem was that the advice was generally just…bad. Vague. Ultimately meaningless. Stuff like, “What are the stakes here?” and “I don’t think the character would do that.” None of it was helpful, because one of it really meant anything.

The good news is: In wading through a lot of bad advice, learned a great deal about what really helps writers. The main thing being, if you want to write well, you have to be a better writer. Before you say, “Duh!” let me explain. The best advice for you as a writer, whether in the beginning of your career or the beginning of a new project, is advice that helps you discover your individual creative desires and process, then builds from there. It’s advice that helps you understand your relationship to writing and the things you write about and how you write, not some generic idea of what your writing is “supposed” to be like. That’s why this is a list of tips for writers, not writing.

Read on, and be the writer only you can be!

1. Writing is a part of who you are, not just something you do.

Writing is like conversation, it’s free; free financially and free in its contours and where it goes. A few rudimentary tools are needed, but other than that, it’s up to you. Writing playful. It’s totally unbounded except by its form: symbols. You can write anywhere. You can, like conversation, write from any state of mind, whether you’re happy, motivated, tired, sick, drunk, or anxious.

Have you ever met someone who doesn’t know how to shake hands or who simply can’t have an introductory conversation without being rude or abrasive? Writing is like that: When it’s good, it’s a sign that someone has done inner work. When it’s bad, it’s a sign that there’s inner work yet to be done. So my first tip is really just a concept that the rest grow from: Writing is a part of who you are.

deconstructed-typewriter2. Even though writing is free, it deserves some sacrifice.

To be made healthy, writing demands sacrifice. This means inner or behavioral development in one way or another. It means developing a different relationship to your life overall. Most commonly, that takes the form of reorienting to and creating time. People love to say, “I just wish I had time to write!” As a writing coach, I help writers create time. I have clients who have 9-5 jobs, 7-6 jobs, clients with two jobs and three kids, and guess what? They write.

There are ways to do it.

If your dream of writing is big enough, you’re willing to give up the lie that you don’t have time to do it. Make that your first sacrifice. And after that, keep in mind that a foundational question of being a writer is: What are you willing to give up?

3. Writing well requires rhythm.

That means picking a time to write and keeping your commitment to writing each day. Why? Another lie writers tell themselves is that they can only write when they’re inspired. But writing needs, instead, to be ritualized. If you write only when you feel inspired, or if you don’t write when you’re sick or tired or unhappy, you will not continue to write. Why should good writing show up for you if you keep changing plans?

Turn yourself into a rhythmic person who writes every day. I work with my clients to get them in writing patterns that are rhythmic and sustainable. When you get into a groove like that, the writing starts to appear more often, and it gets better and better.

4. Not writing is part of writing, so be a person who enjoys sitting.gettingthere

When you become rhythmic, making yourself an address for writing to show up in, there will still be days when it does not come. But don’t deceive yourself into thinking you’re not doing the work. Sitting is the work.

It’s a bit like owning a store: you open the shop, sometimes people come in and buy stuff, sometimes they don’t, but you still open the store each day.

Before you yawn, think of how amazing that is: You get to just sit and think about your creative project, dreaming about it, considering it from different angles. That’s not a drag. That’s awesome.

5. It’s not about being finished, it’s about knowing when to stop and when to keep going.

As a writer, you may never feel totally satisfied with your work. When you’re done with a story/essay/article/book/screenplay/etc., you may continue to feel a longing. Or at the beginning of a project, you may be plagued with doubt. I offer a service called a Writer’s Assessment. It’s a 90 minute meeting in which I talk to writers about their work and process. Very often they want to know “Am I a good writer?” This is a question that’s based on the idea that someone will realize that they’re good and then the doubt will go away and that’ll be that. But it’s a not a worthwhile question, because even if you’re good, even if you’re like Joyce Carol Oates good or Seamus Heaney good or fill-in-the-blank-with-your-favorite-amazing-writer good, you can still be better. Indeed, one of the hallmarks of being good is wanting to do better. (Note here though, “do better” is subtly different than “be better.”)

“Am I a good writer” is a garbage question. Throw it away. Start focusing on helpful ones like: How do I know when to stop writing? How do I know when to keep going? When do I apply my power to do better and when do I just let go and let the piece have its own life without me fiddling anymore?

It’s not about recognizing when it’s done, it’s about recognizing when you should stop or keep going.

6. Finish what you’ve started or abandon it completely.

Writers are haunted by incomplete projects. They’ll start a novel, get 100 pages in and quit. Don’t do it. Don’t stop once you’ve started unless you’re willing to let go entirely. Not only will you never finish the project you’ve stopped, you’ve made yourself unworthy of the story you wanted to create. If you abandon something, abandon it completely. Your thoughts that you “should” be writing it will slow up all future writing. That doesn’t mean you can’t come back to in a few years and rediscover it, but that can only happen when you’re a different person with a different outlook and therefore the whole thing is a different project. Keep going or let it go.

7. Writers read.

cropped-books.jpgI’m astounded by how many writers don’t read. This tip may be obvious but here it is: Writers – the successful and talented ones – read. They read often. Writers need to be inwardly and outwardly woven into a world of books, screenplays, essays, plays, comics, poems, and other writers. If you don’t give yourself over to the international community of writers and literary works, why should that community embrace you? And don’t just stick to reading stuff that’s like the stuff you write. Read widely as well as deeply. Cultivate talent and success as a writer by reading. Give loving attention to the literary world and you’ll be welcomed into it.

8. You can do anything you want.

Writers love to get stuck.

They love writing two thirds of a story and stopping dead in their tracks, unable to answer their own question of ,“how do I get from Point A to Point B?”

Here’s an example from one of my clients: He was writing a young adult novel, and he wanted to have a character sneak into a room to spy on some people. So there was all this twisting and turning to get the character through the only door to the room and remain unseen. How would the people in the room not notice this kid sneaking in? My client kept redesigning the room, trying to create distractions for the characters so the spy could get in, whatever. It was driving him crazy.

So I said, “Why don’t you just have your character in the room already by the time everyone enters?” Oh!

He’d worked himself into such a terrible corner trying to figure out how to deal with the confines he’d set for himself that he didn’t realize that there were no confines because he was the creator!

But there’s more to this tip. When I say you can do anything, I also mean: YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU CAN IMAGINE.

Want to write a 300 page novel that has a UFO show up for the first time on the last page and kill your two main characters? Nothing’s stopping you.

So you thought of a famous painting in the middle of your essay and want to include it? Go ahead!

Want to stop mid-play and have a character come to the front of the stage and discuss the merits of plastic wrap? Totally up to you.

Yes, you want to write well. But always keep in mind: You’re making this thing. It exists through and because of you. 

9. Style is a mood you generate out of yourself.

Huh? I know, this one sounds weird. But it’s so fundamental. When you’re writing well, when words and sentences and narratives are coming through you and they feel right, pay attention to the feeling. It’s a feeling only you have, and it’s style.

We tend to think of style of something we can observe when we’ve broken a piece of writing down into word choices and sentence structure. Sure, that’s how style emerges when a reader interacts with writing. But style for the author is a mood.

When you’re in that zone of writing well, you’ll get a feeling that is irreproducible elsewhere in life and is unique to you. It’s generated by you in the act of writing, and it’s your guide to when you’re at your best and purest. That doesn’t mean that every time you experience this mood you’re creating a masterpiece. As you get better as a writer, the feeling refines itself, just as when you refine your palate as you get a better sense of food and ingredients, etc. This mood — your style — is refined as you become a better writer.

10. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you how to write. For the most part.

Okay, okay, I’m being a little goofy here. Ending my list of advice with a call to disregard advice. Of course, the difference between this list and many others out there is that I’m focusing, mostly, on what it means to be a writer; the other lists often insist on telling you how you should write. But you’re an individual. You have your own desires, tastes, etc. That’s why writing groups, writing teachers, and how-to books can be disastrous. They can misdirect you or discourage your unique voice or give you a false sense of validation. The important thing is to become the writer that you are, not the sort of writer others are telling you you should be.

But that doesn’t mean complacency. Find the voices that resonate with you in a challenging way. In other words, ask yourself: What challenges feel right? Who’s offering me those challenges? That also means: if you find a teacher that gives you that sense (and yes, sure, it might be me!), keep up with him/her!

And of course, that’s a pitch…

If there’s an 11th tip, it’s this:

Hire me as your writing coach and consultant to take your writing to the next level and to completely transform your relationship to your creative process!

Click here or email me at connerwrites[at]gmail.com for details.

Onward, writer!

CH

Conner and Gordon White on Grimerica talking all that weird stuff.

26 Mar

dhChaos Protocols and Star.ShipsStar.Ships author + Rune Soup host, Gordon White, and I are getting our weird lives and magickal destinies more and more intertwined.

Here we are on the excellent Grimerica podcast, talking all sorts of weird shit.

  • Why we’re in a spiritual Renaissance.
  • What’s up with all that Pizzagate stuff?
  • What’s the matter with materialism?
  • How you can be an occultist by just looking around the room.
  • Why going to a haunted house with a Ouija Board would be the best scary idea you might ever have.

And more! Gordon and I have talked before, of course, but it was nice talking on someone else’s podcast – where we were both interrupted with questions, concerns, and challenges by the Grimerica guys, who are both well-meaning and conspiracy-minded. They’re great. Give it a go (interview starts at 49.05)!

If you’re interested in my past appearances on Grimerica, here’s me on solo; and me in conversation with the Grimerica guys and Alex Tsakiris, host of the Skeptiko podcast. (Oh, and if that’s not enough links for you, the conversation I had with Alex about science on this very blog, dear reader!)

Get A Writer’s Physical: Hire Me for A Writing Assessment * 20 % OFF SALE!

15 Mar

 

I’ve been working with writers for over a decade now, helping them complete projects, get published, get into better writing habits, and develop their voices. One of the most common questions I get as a writing coach is: “Is my writing any good?”

It’s not easy to carry that question around with you, especially when you haven’t gotten the recognition (or money!) you want for your work. To make matters worse, you might sense that there is some problem with your writing, but not know what it is. When worries about the quality of your work meet not knowing how to progress creatively, writer’s block and frustration ensue.

That’s why you need a physical for your writing. When you hire me for a Writer’s Assessment, I give a close reading to a sample of your work, ask you essential questions about your practice, reflect on your strengths and weaknesses, and give you tools to continue. You’ll gain key insights, feel enlivened, and you’ll level up your style and practice.

Sign up for a Writer’s Assessment between now and 4/1 and get 20% off!

Regular price: $300      SALE price: $240

Here’s how:

  1. Send an email to connerwrites at gmail.com and put the word PHYSICALS in the subject line. Tell me a little bit about yourself and your writing in the email.
  2. I’ll tell you how to submit payment. You submit payment, and we’ll confirm an appointment time! We don’t have to meet by 4/1 for you to get the discount, of course. You just have to register by then.
  3. You send me a writing sample, I give it a close read.
  4. We meet for about 90 minutes. It’s awesome.
  5. I send you a follow-up email with key points from the meeting, some actions/readings/exercises that will help you become an even better writer.

One other cool thing: The Writer’s Assessment is also the gateway to my other coaching services. When you get one, the payment is deducted from most future services (One-on-one Intensive Writing Coaching, Writing Life: 6 Weeks from Page to Publication for Your Personal Essay or Article, 8 Weeks To Becoming A (Better) Writer8 Weeks To Becoming A (Better) Writer)!

If you want more info on the Writer’s Assessment, click here!

For more info on my other coaching services, click here!

THIS SUNDAY: What Is The Occult + Me on Nerdist, podcasts and more!

6 Mar

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“Occultism is the metaphysic of dunces.” – Theodor Adorno, philosopher

“Science is always discovering odd scraps of magical wisdom and making a tremendous fuss about its cleverness.” – Aleister Crowley, magus

“The occult takes everything seriously, because it recognizes that everything is possible.” – Conner Habib, me

The occult is contentious, powerful, absurd, and absolutely vital. My online course, What Is the Occult? Is THIS SUNDAY, 3/12 at noon (PST). Sign up for just 15 bucks! If you can’t attend that day/time, no problem! Your ticket gets you exclusive access to a recording of the whole thing!

You can also get tickets with cool bonus packages like a Skype conversation with me, a curated reading list, suggested rituals, access to recordings of previous courses I’ve given, and more!

Sign up now!

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I’ve done a lot of media lately, including the legendary Hound Tall podcast with legendary MKcomedian Moshe Kasher on the legendary network, Nerdist! Okay, look, I’m pushing this legendary thing, I get it. The point is, it was fun, like the movie, Legend. Basically, I talked about sex and the occult with a bunch of comedians. They interrupted me a lot, but in funny ways. Moshe’s been on Portlandia, Drunk History, and more. He also has a new show on Comedy Central, Problematic with Moshe Kasher. He’s hilarious and he’s obviously in love with me. Listen to our conversation here.

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I was on the coolest Swedish Deleuze-meets-cultural-studies podcast (yes, yes, the joke is that it’s the ONLY Swedish Deleuze-meets-cultural-studies podcast, but it’s still the coolest), The Catacombic Machine. Me and Josef Gustafsson discuss a lot of things: desire, Rudolf Steiner, Gilles Deleuze, and David Lynch’s Blue Velvet. It’s a nice big mindfuck of a podcast, so give it a listen!

 

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I’m part of this year’s Explore More SummitExplore More SummitExplore More Summit! It’s an online conference featuring tons of sex researchers and experts, set up by sex educator, Dawn Serra. She’s awesome and asks great questions. The way it works: You sign up for free and get access to a whole lot of stuff. If you pay, you get access to a ton more stuff.

Here’s the trailer for my part of the conference! Click here to sign up for free!

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Oh and here’s the trailer for my course, in case you missed it a couple weeks ago. It’s a masterpiece of me with a candles and some books because that is really witchy. Or something.

Do what I wilt,

CH