Friends,
As I approach my 45th birthday, I’m thinking a lot about what it is I want from my life. It’s not yet half over, but it’s heading there, and there’s so much to choose from! To sort through the burden of wanting so much, I invited psychotheapist Charlotte Fox Weber, author of What We Want: A Journey Through Twelve of Our Deepest Desires onto to the show to discuss the many ways desire shows up for us and how to manage it (if it is, indeed, manageable).
PS: No episode next week, as I celebrate my birthday, but keep your eyes open for a FOR-PATRONS-ONLY recording of my event in New York City with Will Menaker of Chapo Traphouse!
SHOW NOTES
WHAT BOOK YOU SHOULD READ?
Another great book about desire (By one of my favorite writers) is On Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life by Adam Phillips. “We make our lives pleasurable, and therefore bearable, by picturing them as they might be; it is less obvious, though, what these compelling fantasy lives – lives of, as it were, a more complete satisfaction – are a self-cure for.”
WHAT OTHER AEWCH EPISODE YOU SHOULD LISTEN TO?
Another long conversation about desire is AEWCH 95 with Maggie Nelson. What a weird conversation, too, in the best way. Desire in literature, in sex, in art.
MORE ON CHARLOTTE
The best place to learn more about Charlotte (or to contact her as a therapist!) is via her website. Charlotte’s book isn’t available in the US until April 2023, but you can order it from this link to her publisher – which offers multiple sites to get it from. And here’s a little interview with Charlotte where she says “Paying attention is a form of love.” Well said!
Until next time friends,
Get help! (Joking, not joking.
CH
Conner Habib 
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