I’m a very professional person.
See that tie I’m wearing? Professional. Nevermind that I don’t have pants on underneath the frame of the photo. I’ve got to be profesh now that I’m the elected Vice President of a non-profit organization! Along with straight porn superstars James Deen, Chanel Preston, Veruca James, and Ela Darling, I’m now on the board of The Adult Performer Advocacy Committee (APAC), and I couldn’t be happier. APAC is an organization whose membership is exclusively made up of porn performers, with the aim of encouraging performer health, safety, happiness, and quality of life. The organization was formed over a year ago by James Deen, Stoya, and others and membership has swelled as word has gotten out that we’re the only non-profit in town actually considering performer viewpoints and voices. We’ve fought against AB1576, created a Model Bill of Rights, raised thousands of dollars for related charities, and more. Part of my job is to create a bridge between the gay and straight industries, and to also make sure trans*, queer, and alt – performers are featured in the public discussion of porn, which too often leaves them out. I’m also one of the media spokespeople/contacts (along with Chanel) so f you’re not a performer and have questions about the organization, feel free to hit me up.
If you are an adult performer and interested in becoming a member, click here.
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I am on a couple podcasts talking about the occult and sometimes it gets deep, y’all.
– First up: The Modern Witch Podcast. Even though I’m not a witch, my own occult interests intersect with magickal religious traditions. We talk quite a bit about God and what anyone means, anyway, when they mention God. I answer a few audience questions and it’s kind of gay in the good way.
– Also: Why Are People into That? with sex-savy host Tina Horn. Lots about how magick and ritual relates to sex. I also talk about my first memory and anal sex as an act of powerful transubstantiation. So. There you go.
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I am interviewed by these magazines and say a lot of crazy shit and it’s fun. Here are some quotes from them.
– I’m in Playboy! Not, alas, as a centerfold. Someday! Until then, there’s a little write up of me and my work, and I feel really flattered to be featured. “Pornography represents a flipside and balancing-out of the cultural expectations of college students.”
– There’s a long an in-depth interview with me in Polari Magazine – we conducted the interview awhile back, but it’s recently posted, and there’s a lot there. “For me, the impossibility of Christianity is a profound thing for me. I was hanging out with a friend the other night, he’s an atheist and a comedian and he makes these jokes about being an atheist. But he asked me “So you believe in Jesus Christ? That this smart guy preached all this good stuff? You don’t believe in the entire walk on water or water to wine stuff?”. I said, “I totally believe in that, that’s the most important part”. What atheists say to all is “that’s impossible, it couldn’t have happened”. Whereas a more religious aligned person would say, “it’s impossible but it happened anyway”. Ultimately, it’s irrelevant whether it happened or not. The thing that is vital for me is about existing in a conceptual world where I can think of things impossible. I allow myself to think outside of the structures and confines of what I’m told is supposed to have happened, even down to the laws of physics and science. It allows everything to be possible.
Me and my porn bestie, gay-for-pay icon, Girth Brooks.
I have that approach in everything in life. In an election you’re told that you can vote for one guy or vote for the guy that’s slightly worse. There’s more to it than those options because I’m going to do everything in my power to make the world a better place. If you think that you only have these two little options, then you’re stuck with that. It’s always about doing the impossible thing and seeing past what we’re told. That probably comes from the punk rock thing! When someone says, “You can’t do that”, I might agree; but I will always take a minute to think or imagine a way outside of this.”
– Finally, my appearance in a recent issue of LA’s big free gay magazine, Frontiers. They wanted to know what I thought about gay for pay – which is something I get asked about quite a bit, and have written about here and here. But the subject is endlessly fascinating, I suppose. After all, it links into all our questions about what the heck sexuality is, after all. “What about gay men who were married for decades, came out late in life and decided to express their true feelings? Are they bi, straight or gay?”
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Finally – have you noticed? I’ve been updating my blog more regularly. I think I deserve a big kiss on the cheek for that. Or a hug. Or a handy.
XXXo,
CH
Conner Habib 
Beauty, Brawn and Brains have seldom been more nicely blended. I enjoy your blogs immensely.
Great article , love reading you stuff it always makes me think outside the box. And the way you write your pieces .they are a nice read.
I am an older (!) gay who was married and came out later. I am definitely gay and lucky enough to be able to extent by sex experiences into my healthy 70’s. Connor, you are a great gay role model – you are self-defined; you live inside and outside the boundaries of your sexuality; you fulfill the expectations you have set for yourself; you make the rest of us want to be better people. AND, you’re fun to look at.
Fascinating as ever – and always fun. Respect! Check this: http://steveswindells.wordpress.com/2013/08/17/shifty-shades-of-gay-by-steve-swindells-3/