A lot of great stuff happening lately. First, I want to give a shout out to my shout out in bestselling author Jon Ronson‘s new (and excellent) book, So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed. It’s about the rise of shaming culture on the internet, and its repercussions. The book is funny and poignant, and having been a huge Jon Ronson fan since his first book, Them: Adventures with Extremists, I’m thrilled to be included in it.
Hilariously (perfectly) enough, Jon Ronson mentions my asshole. And then Jon Stewart praised the book as “wonderful.” So I’m just going to go out on a limb and pretend that that somehow means that I was on the Daily Show. Or, um, my asshole was, anyway.
I’m featured in two new Buzzfeed Video videos: “Men Watch Porn with Porn Stars” and “Women Watch Porn with Porn Stars.” Basically, I watch one of my scenes — from Joe Gage’s & Ray Dragon’s excellent and bestselling porn, After the Heist (link NSFW) — with Buzzfeed staffers. So they’re just sitting there watching me, you know, have lots and lots of sex. It was a hilarious and fun experience. In the “Women…” version, I hang out with my friend, comedian Gaby Dunn. Always a pleasure to have your friends watch you get a facial (?) In the “Men…” version, I watch with a very handsome straight guy named Dan De Lorenzo. He was sweating, curious, and funny. I have to admit the experience was arousing for me. And maybe for him, too. “There’s a lot of tension between us,” he said afterward, “and not in a bad way!”
I appeared on the Grimerica podcast with Skeptiko host and author of Why Science Is Wrong about Almost Everything Alex Tsakiris. Along with weirdness/occult writer Red Pill Junkie and hosts Graham and Darren, we cover a lot of ground: Psychoanalysis, what to do about climate change, virtual reality models of the universe, how to fight conspiracies, and more. These sorts of boundary-less conversations often have a Burning-Man-meets-The-Matrix thing going on, of course. But they also have the more serious function of pushing me (and hopefully listeners!) into a creative and speculative way of thinking. The alternating currents of playful and thoughtful do something interesting when they collide. So listen and take it very seriously and also don’t take it seriously at all.
After over a year hiatus, I finally have some new adult work coming out. It’s a sequel (yes, a real SEQUEL sequel) to Dad Goes to College, one of my most popular films. I wrote about taking a break –and how porn performers can gracefully take a break or leave the industry — earlier this year. It took legendary porn and Z-List science fiction director Joe Gage to coax me out of my donut-eating bliss. The conversation went something like this:
Joe: Hey Conner, I want you to reprise your role as Kyle in a sequel to Dad Goes to College. It’s called Dad Out West.
Me: That sounds great, but I’ve been off for a year and a half. I weigh 185 lbs. I have a different body now. Not sure if I’m right for it.
Joe: Send me pictures, let’s take a look.
Me: *sends pictures*
Joe: You’re perfect! Have you ever seen Boyhood? It’ll be just like that!
Me: Okay, sign me up. Just don’t make me stop eating donuts.
To watch a very NSFW teaser of Dad Out West, click here. If you want to download the movie, stream it, or buy a DVD, click here (NSFW and also: it’s not up just yet but WILL be available later this month).
Quite a bit of stuff coming out soon. Including
an essay, “The Name of Your First Pet and the Street You Grew Up On,” in the anthology Coming out Like a Porn Star,
an interview in the academic journal Porn Studies
a collection of conversations with sex therapist and radical thinker Dr. Chris Donaghue
an essay about the connections between anti-sex work/anti-porn bigotry and other forms of hate speech
and more (phew!)
As always, if you want to hire me to speak to your college or organization about pornography, sex, and culture, you should! Click here for more info/to hire me.
Okay, phew, that’s it for now. Thanks for stopping by. Love!