Spring Has Sprung (Update!)

3 May

libraryI’m really and truly almost finished with my book, Remaking Sex (out in 2015 from from Disinformation books). Right now, I’m compiling a full publication, media appearance and movie archive, as well as overhauling my website.  If you’re a web designer and you want to help me out with that, great!  In the meantime, there’s plenty else going on.  Like what? you ask.  Well, here you go.


Two (very different) interviews out.  One with chick-lit superstar, Babe Walker, on the crazy popular White Girl Problems website.  I talk about having a hard on for my trainers, biodynamic iris facial cream (really!), and a getting forcibly fucked by Spartans.  There’s also an old (pre-porn, actually) but kind of fun photo of me posing Burt Lancaster style, naked with some books.  The other interview is on gay hookup paradise, Manhunt, and we talk about my book, the state of internet censorship, and the guys I most want to do scenes with (no surprise that Colby Jansen and Bravo Delta are on there).

The attitude that allows people to attack women in porn is the same attitude that kept women from getting degrees at Duke University until the late 19th Century.”  – I was also interviewed by maverick feminist site Jezebel for their article on media sensation Belle Knox, the out sex worker/porn star Duke University student. The article is pretty solid.

I appeared on two podcasts – gay radio comedy meltdown Feast of Fun – which was mostly about my essay in The Stranger, “What I Want To Know is Why You Hate Porn Stars.”  And I was on the Out of the Box podcast with comedian  Rosie Tran – we go allll over the place on that one: sex, social control, relationships, etc.  It’s good stuff, and Rosie was a lot of fun to talk with.


My thoughts on ambition appear in Adult Magazine in their monthly advice round table.  I say a bunch of stuff about fairy tales and respond to Cord Jefferson, Emily Gould, and others.  It’s a fun quick read.

Salon.com reissued my essay, “Rest Stop Confidential,” which is about having sex at rest areas in the RestAreawoods/bathrooms.  It caused a little bit of a stir when it came out, and  it’s been making the round again.  Happily, American Conservative Magazine got its bloody hands on it and decided to publicly insult me, which I count as a sort of personal victory.  The essay also appears in Best Sex Writing 2013 (along with essays by Jonathan Lethem, Carol Queen and more), which you can purchase here.

My weekly sex and relationship advice column, Free Sex, on Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger‘s site, PattiKnows, is going strong.  Recent topics include: “Four Reasons Why You Should Have Sex Right Away“, and my favorite so far, “You Don’t Have To Be In A Relationship. (Ever.).”


I’ll be presenting at the Lambda Literary Awards on June 2nd in New York, along with AM Homes, Urvashi Vaid, Justin Hall, and more.  Very excited to be a part of the event, which is the largest LGBT literary event in the world.  Truly honored.  It’s open to the public – info and how to get tickets are all listed here.


As always, if you’re interested in hiring me to speak at your event, organization, or school, please click here.  If you’d like help with your writing projects – including essays, fiction, screenplays, plays and more, click here.

More soon! Love,


6 Responses to “Spring Has Sprung (Update!)”

  1. Fred Wilkey May 3, 2014 at 10:32 pm #


    Conner –   Really like your article on not *needing* a relationship.  It summarizes the points I’ve been trying to make to my clients for years.  It’ll definitely be making the rounds.   Thank you.   Fred Wilkey EdD Clinical Psychologist (PSY8380) 310-659-4455 fredheart@earthlink.net

  2. Mark May 4, 2014 at 5:01 pm #

    Conner: You are the guy. As an older gay man, it is terrific for me to see younger (really hot) gay men living it out – you have an exciting body (i know who you are only because I saw a movie); you are completely welcoming; you have a solid unconditional self-esteem; you have a brain, and you are literate. You gotta be lovin’ life. What a great role model you are. Thanks.

  3. 毛雷 May 4, 2014 at 10:18 pm #

    Bravo, my Conner! You are fabulous, as always.

  4. jerfairall May 5, 2014 at 4:32 am #

    Is that Lethem’s THE EXTACY OF INFLUENCE I see on your shelf? If so, 🙂

  5. elan5@btinternet.com May 6, 2014 at 7:13 pm #

    Loved the update Conner, always great to hear from you, this makes good reading.

    Ed. xx


  6. Malik July 3, 2014 at 5:07 pm #

    Just saw your blog, will be following. Thanks for such insights, all the best in all that you write. I live in Oman and will be reading your articles.

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